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Jul 17 2008

How To Erase Bad Karma

Lately, I’ve been getting questions such as “How did I get such bad karma?” or “Why is my karma so rotten?” This is the wrong way to look at karma, my friends. In Sanskrit, karma means “action.” We retain bad karma because of something that we have done or something we did not do. Only a handful of people in the world have no bad karma, but they do walk among us — not that I have met one, nor would I know if I had.

Karma is not the same as sin or luck. The more I think about it, I don’t think luck even exists, and I don’t subscribe to the concept of sin. I don’t believe in sin because sin has no utility as a rational descriptor in an objective test, and guilt is a fruitless emotion. (This is a good post to read if you are burdened by guilt.) Sin and bad karma are similar — just as good deeds and good karma are similar — but it really would be better if you completely discarded every previous misconception about karma.

One’s karma is the aggregate of all the past actions in which one has partaken, all the present actions in which one is partaking, and all future actions in which a person intends to partake. Karma is easily transferred too, so one could easily inherit good and bad karma from a loved one (just as easily as one could from a stranger on the street).

This is an extreme vulgarization, but I sometimes think of karma as a credit card that the Universe issued me when I was born. As soon as I started to exhibit free will, I began accumulating a debt of bad karma by acting selfishly toward others (as is the case with most young people). Eventually, as my conscience and sense of life purpose started evolving, I began behaving more selflessly toward others, and my karma started to improve.

Despite a supportive and loving family, I spent many years alone and unhappy because my debt to the Universe was substantial. Through the diligent employment of the Noble Eightfold Path, I became able to improve my life many times over. Today, I am a happily married man to a gorgeous, intelligent, and kind-hearted woman who reciprocates my devotion to her. I love the life that I am living today, and I have my good karma to thank for it.

Specifically, to improve your karma:

1) Replace all of your negative thoughts with good, non-violent thoughts, but don’t beat yourself up if a negative thought enters your mind (this takes practice, so go easy on yourself but keep at it);

2) Participate in more selfless activities and fewer selfish activities, and never partake in any kind of violence toward yourself or any other living being (this includes emotional and physical violence);

3) Speak well of others or don’t say anything, and always speak honestly but courteously; and

4) Make a living by benefiting other people — or at the very least, stop making a living by hurting others. (Note: this one is the hardest. It is so easy to make a good living by creating disharmony in the world, and often the jobs that help people don’t provide much fiscal revenue. I am sorry, but that is the price of a real happiness that will last you the rest of your life.)

The four steps mentioned above constitute the Ethical Conduct branch of the Noble Eightfold Path (i.e. Loving Thought, Loving Action, Loving Speech, and Loving Livelihood). Truly ethical conduct is the best and only way to improve one’s karma. The four other steps of the Noble Eightfold Path help Buddhists start and continue to maintain the Middle Way, or the path to true liberation.

Be good to yourselves, my friends. Life is too short. I hope you’re able to find happiness in whatever way works for you, as long as you don’t hurt yourself or anyone else in the process.

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Jul 04 2008

Happy Independence Day!

I hope you are all able to enjoy your July 4! I am with family. Today we are celebrating an annual family reunion; this is with my father’s mother’s family.

My father’s mother is one of 5 or 6 kids, and each aunt and uncle’s brood outnumbers my small nuclear family two or three times. I can’t keep all of my family members straight. I like most of them a lot; they’re good, honest people.

At times like this, I try to remember Kurt Vonnegut’s thoughts on extended families. He felt that loneliness is society’s greatest social ill, that all of our unhappiness is rooted in ultimate isolation from each other. Vonnegut observed the happiness exhibited by the native peoples of Nigeria and felt that it was cultured by their tightly knit extended families.

He felt that American extended families were not as closely bonded because of attachment to our illusory freedoms. I don’t know if he was right. I certainly do enjoy being able to express myself though. I enjoy being able to say what is on my mind and worship in the way I choose — and many people in other countries do not enjoy those liberties.

I don’t know which is better, but I certainly would like to be able to turn to any stranger and great them as though they were a member of my family. Maybe some day.

Happy Independence Day!

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Jun 22 2008

Take It Easy, Really

Every weekday, my wife and I get up early so I can make breakfast and get her out the door, allowing her to make her morning commute. We go to bed late because she also teaches voice lessons at night. By the time, the weekend rolls around we are always tired.

Our story is probably very common amongst our fellow Americans. With the standard of living being so high in this country, a lot of families must find multiple sources of revenue to make ends meet. And getting ahead? Forget about it, right? I’m sure that a lot of people don’t even see a point in saving up for a house, sending their kids of to college, or just trying to live comfortably. What’s the point? It ain’t gonna’ happen, right?

Wrong! If you are happy, you will always live and feel rich.

You have to change your perspective on things, or you’re going to be miserable for the rest of your life. Everything you grew up thinking was important (money, a house, vacations, etc.), none of that matters because none of it will make you happy.

Happy people are healthy people, and healthy people live longer. Who wants to leave this world unhappy?

If you want to be happy — and I am writing about really really deep-in-your-soul Happy — the first step is tell yourself, “Hey! I deserve to be happy!” Honestly, you have to march into your bathroom; look yourself in the mirror; and tell yourself that you deserve happiness.

Then you have to forgive yourself for being unhappy for so long, and you have to stop blaming everyone else in the world for making you unhappy. No one else other than yourself is responsible for your own happiness. If you rely on others for happiness, you will be riding an emotional roller coaster that will prematurely turn you old and gray.

Everyday I meet people who think that I’m in my early 20’s, but I’m actually in my mid-30’s. I keep myself looking and feeling young, because I never let meaningless nonsense bother me.

You can’t get angry with yourself or get angry with others. Anger is a contagious disease that rots the soul of everyone it infects. Practice smiling in the mirror, and smile as often as you can, especially when you don’t feel like smiling. A smile is just as contagious, maybe even more so.

If you want to be happy, you have to wake up every morning and proactively decide that you are going to be happy. Then take responsibility for all of your own actions. Every action that you take (and every action that you don’t take) has an immediate effect in the world — and it always comes back to either help or hurt you, depending on how positive was your action. Always take pride in what you are doing, and if you’re doing something that doesn’t make you proud, maybe you should stop doing it.

Stop for a second, and change your perspective. Step outside of the box you have created for yourself. Realize that you (the individual You) are an essential component in the organism that connects all life in the Universe. Honestly.

This is the first step toward really really REALLY being happy for the rest of your life. I’ll write more about this later.

I love you all very much, my friends. Be good to each other.

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Jun 21 2008

It’s Hard to Imagine a More Perfect Day

The wife and I woke up and watched a movie.

We could’ve done dishes, but we didn’t.

We took friends out to breakfast. It was delicious!

We all had manicures and pedicures. Metro!

We finished our film as I ironed my clothes, and our friends left to do some shopping downtown.

We drove out to my parents’ house where they threw a beautiful party.

I saw friends and family whom I haven’t seen in years. I love them all.

The Cubs won. The Cubs are the best team in baseball right now. Very nice.

It was a beautiful, sunny evening.

We had a great meal. Great drinks. Good company.

No harsh words were exchanged. Everybody left healthy and happy.

I am so blessed to be a part of this moment in the world.

Thank you, God. Thank you, World. Thank you, my friends. I love all of you very much. Be good to each other.

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